Letters on a Page!

Hebrews 4:13:

“And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.”

In truth, we all are like individual letters on the page of a large open book: side by side and fully exposed! No matter how hard we try, we cannot change the fact that we are side by side; and we cannot change the fact that we are fully exposed.

Of course, given our close proximity, we interact. And, somewhere along those interactive lines, we, letters, have produced a distinct 3-tiered “status” system.

On the top status level are the robust capital letters. Each one has been given power over all the lowercase letters that follow it. So, depending on how long the clause, one capital letter might be ruler over 10 smaller letters, while another capital might be ruler over 50 or more. It’s a tough job being a capital letter because everyone looks up to them. They try their best to hide out in the open.

The middle status level is, of course, the largest level. It is there where all the “common” letters exist. Because of the amount of letters in this category, the noise is the loudest, so the confusion; and therefore, trouble is greatest. Deafness and blindness are common. Violence is sure. All the distractions drive deception deeper and the common letters believe wholeheartedly that their stark nakedness is unseen.

On the bottom status level are the “cast aways. These letters have been labeled by all the distracted, common letters around them because they look different and are less used overall. While the majority of common letters seemingly never tire of taunting this group, the smaller percentage dare not show kindness, lest they too be shunned. It’s impossible to move up out of this level. Those residing here are content to be in full view.


So, where have you been placed on the parchment?

  • Are you a capital letter: someone whom others have given greater status to?
  • Are you just another distracted common letter?
  • Are you among the tormented cast aways?

There is good news: To God, the letter-Creator, we are all the same! 

To the “Capitals”: Be warned: God does not look at “Status” or “Stature!” 

  • 1 Corinthians 1:27: “God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty; . . .”
  • Samuel 16:7: But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
  • Proverbs 16:18: “Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall.”

To the “Common”: Be reminded: God hears through the noise and sees through the dark veil! 

  • Romans 2:11: “There is no partiality with God.”
  • 1 Timothy 5:21: “I charge you before God and the Lord Jesus Christ and the elect angels that you observe these things without prejudice, doing nothing with partiality.”
  • James 3:17: But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy.

To the “Cast Aways”: Be encouraged: God will avenge!

  • Romans 3:10: “”There is none righteous, no, not one;””
  • Romans 3:23: “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, . . .”
  • Romans 12:19: “Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.”
  • The Old Testament book of Obadiah is all about God repaying Jacob’s brother, Esau for his sins. God left nothing out–He remembered them all!

To all “Letters” on the page: God is in control! 

  • Job 34:14-15: “If He should set His heart on it, If He should gather to Himself His Spirit and His breath, All flesh would perish together, And man would return to dust.”
  • Acts 17:26  “And He has made from one blood every nation of men to dwell on all the face of the earth, and has determined their preappointed times and the boundaries of their dwellings. . . “


Bountifully Blessed!

2 Corinthians 9:6: “He who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.”

This is a true story. I am not telling it today to be prideful–God knows. It is not written in my familiar format or style, but that’s okay. I don’t tell it much, but I should. ❤

It was in the month of December, 1995. I was a young, poor single mother.

I was desirous to purchase a special Christmas gift: two movie tickets, for a woman in the church, who watched my son for me, and her husband. All I had in my checking account was $20. The movie tickets were $20. I really wanted to show my appreciation to this special couple, so I drove over to the movie theater and purchased the tickets. I remember being filled with joy as I drove away. About five miles down the road, I was prompted, by the low fuel light, to look down at my gas gauge. I did not know what I was going to do. I had no money for gas.

Without thinking (literally), I made a right turn into an old Shell gas station near an old airstrip. I proceeded to a pump, parked my car, got out, and began filling up my dilapidated 1985 Ford Mustang. I NEVER filled up my car! Typically, I would only have $3 or $4 left over after paying bills and buying food, so I never went over that amount–but this night was different. I cannot explain my rationale because there was none. I do not remember having a single thought about HOW I would pay for the gas; it’s as if my mind was temporarily unable to process thought. So there I stood on a muffled December evening, filling my car full of gas that I could not pay for.

Out of the silence came a sound. I looked up and saw a man who looked to be in his 50s. He was walking past the front of my car, smiling. Having not received an answer from me, he spoke again: “I love your license plate.” (My license plate was a shiny plum purple color with “JESUS” printed in silver.) I smiled and thanked him. He continued walking into the station. Just then, the fuel sensor stopped the pump–my tank was full! I placed the cap back on the tank opening and walked into the station.

At this point, I still do not recall what I was thinking, if anything. It was as if I was a robot! I made my way to the counter; yet still, no processing. The second my eyes met the eyes of the cashier–and way before I had even a moment to process what I would say, she said: “Your gas was paid for by the man in front of you.” Stunned. Silence. Shouting inside. “What!”  My eyes desperately followed the direction of the “man in front of [me].” It was him! It was the same man who had, just a few minutes before, commented on my license plate!

I walked slowly–dumfounded out of the station, my eyes fixed on the stranger who gave a valuable gift to me. I got into my vehicle and I watched him get into his: a large, green, dilapidated tow truck. I intently observed him drive away from the station, around a corner and off into the distance. I watched those red tail lights sink into the darkness–craning my neck and straining my eyes to see them vanish forever from my sight. When they were completely gone, I began to sob. I was overwhelmed with gratitude and amazement at what had just happened to me.

My car remained parked at that pump for a very long time that night. As I sat there, I cried out to God, thanking Him for bountifully blessing me.

That December night, 22-years-ago, a young, poor single mother’s life was forever changed.

The story I just told is a true one. I did not tell it today to be prideful–God knows. It is not written in my familiar format or style, but that’s okay. I don’t tell it much, but I should. ❤





God’s Subject?

Our sons enjoy science; biology is their favorite branch. They often discuss the densely diverse subject with their dad. Every once in awhile they try to draw me in; I pretend to join them, but don’t have a clue what they are talking about. One of our sons has mentioned several times that biology (the study of life) is “God’s subject.” While I do not disagree, I suggest that ALL subjects are His.

Mathematics is His: Psalm 147:4, Isaiah 40:12, Matthew 10:30; Music is His: Psalm 33:2-3, Revelation 14:2-3; History, His: Genesis 1:1, Deuteronomy 32:39-41; Psychology, His too: Isaiah 40:13-14, Matthew 6:8; 12:36; Pottery, yeah, He owns it: Psalm 139:13-16, Isaiah 64:8, Romans 9:21; Law, His: Exodus 18:13-27, Leviticus, Isaiah 40:14a, James 5:9; Medicine, His own: John 5:1-9, Matthew 11:28-30; Language, yes, yes–His: Genesis 11–and language (my passion) is where I must invite you to take a walk with me; a stroll, really into a densely diverse subject that God has shared with us. A subject of profound beauty and mystery. 

By day, I am a teacher attempting to instruct children on the profound beauty, structure and mechanics of the English language. One of my favorite figures of speech to teach is the “mighty metaphor.” One of the best world known metaphor examples comes from William Shakespeare who penned, “All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players” (As You Like It, Act II, Scene VII). The metaphor is feasible and quite creative; the world can be compared to a giant stage–and we are all acting upon it–playing different roles throughout our lives, but while Mr. Shakespeare is credited with being a great linguist (and he was), his Creator (the One who gave him the ability) is so much grander. Two of the truly great (I believe the greatest) metaphor examples can be found in the book of Isaiah. In the first example, the master Creator is speaking to the Israelite nation through the prophet, Isaiah:

“The voice said, “Cry out!” And he said, “What shall I cry?” “All flesh is grass, And all its loveliness is like the flower of the field. The grass withers, the flower fades, Because the breath of the LORD blows upon it; Surely the people are grass. The grass withers, the flower fades, But the word of our God stands forever”” (Isaiah 40:6-7, emp. mine).

What a summary of life! Mr. Shakespeare’s stage-life example categorizes life into seven “stages” of temporary physical existence, but God’s field view removes expository details and combines the whole of our lives into a single blade of grass; one that rises up for a brief time, enjoys beauty in a season, then withers away.

In the second great metaphor example, the prophet, Isaiah is speaking to God saying:

“But now, O LORD, You are our Father; We are the clay, and You are our potter; And all we are the work of Your hand” (Isaiah 64:8, emphasis mine).

What an intimate example! Many of us took pottery class in school; we know how hard it is to mold clay. It is messy and difficult to handle. We too are messy and difficult, but our Potter–God knows just how to mold each one of us–for His glory! Ephesians 2:21-22; 2 Corinthians 5;21; Hebrews 2:11, 10:14 ❤

Many people, created in the “image” of God (Genesis 1:26, 27) have been credited with discovering, identifying, creating–even defining certain subjects–or elements therein: Science: Darwin, Einstein and Newton; Math: Descartes, Euclid, Pascal and Noether; History: Ambrose, Churchill and Foucault; Music: Mozart, Ellington, Lennon; Psychology: Freud, Pavlov and Piaget; Pottery: Kangxi, Chiparus and Shirayamadani; Language: Shakespeare, Cicero, Erasmus and Douglass.

Although these individuals certainly added to the subjects, they did not create them. The inventor of all things is God. He is the greatest scientist, mathematician, philosopher, orator, linguist, historian, musician, psychologist, physician, potter, . . . there ever was–and ever will be. He alone “Put[s] wisdom in the mind” and gives “understanding to the heart” (Job 38:36).

If we would only look intently and purposefully into His perfect word, we would find Him–right where He left Himself to be found. His word tells us:

You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart” (Jeremiah 29:13, emp. mine).

He’s not far away, as some would suggest:

And He has made from one blood every nation of men to dwell on all the face of the earth, and has determined their preappointed times and the boundaries of their dwellings, so that they should seek the Lord, in the hope that they might grope for Him and find Him, though He is not far from each one of us; for in Him we live and move and have our being, as also some of your own poets have said, ‘For we are also His offspring” (Acts 17:26-28, emphasis mine). 

*He is “not far” from us, but we walk far away from Him!

We do not need to look into a textbook, anthology or database to find the “epitome” of knowledge; true, eternal knowledge comes only from God’s precious word. He is the “subject” of life!







Five Love Languages?

What is your love language? According to author Gary Chapman, there are five specific languages in which humans communicate love to each other. These “languages,” as claimed by Chapman, are: words of affirmation, acts of service, gift giving, quality time, and physical touch. He asserts that, even though we primarily show love using one language, we actually show love in all five areas—in an ordered fashion. He wrote a book appropriately titled: “The Five Love Languages” (2004; 2012); and he travels around the globe instructing people on how to achieve the “goal”: learn, then practice the skills to successfully communicate these languages to loved ones, thereby achieving optimal relationships.

Learning how to better communicate and show love to those we love is certainly beneficial, but unmatched is our ability to communicate and show love to the Creator of the world. How are we supposed to accomplish this?

Jesus stated:  “If you love Me, keep My commandments(John 14:15).

What are His commandments? We know what Jesus’ response to the Pharisees was after they “tested” (Matthew 22:35) His recollection. He reminded them of the greatest commandment, originally recorded in Deuteronomy 6:5,: “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind” (emp. added, Matt. 22:37), and then the second greatest commandment, similar to the first, originally recorded in Leviticus 19:18b,: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself” (emp. added, Matt. 22:39).

How do we, children of God, keep His commandments? In his first epistle, the aged apostle John explains to us what loving God and keeping His commandments requires. He expounds on the Old Testament commandments, exposing them to all Christians—followers of Christ; children of the new covenant, whether Jew or Gentile. He gives great attention to the matters of love, abiding, commandments, and brother/brethren (children of God)/one another.

Following are some examples from the letter (emphasis added):

Expounding on the first & greatest OT commandment:

“We know that we know Him if we keep His commandments” (2:3).

“Whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in him. By this we know that we are in Him” (2:5).

“And whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in His sight” (3:22).

“Now he who keeps His commandments abides in Him, and He in him” (3:24).

“For this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments. And His commandments are not burdensome” (5:3).

Expounding on the second OT commandment:

“We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love the brethren” (3:14a).

“By this we know love, because He laid His life down for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren” (3:16).

“Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another” (4:11).

“If we love one another, God abides in us, and His love has been perfected in us” (4:12b).

“God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him” (4:16b).

“And this is the commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also” (4:21).

“By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and keep His commandments” (5:2).

Although the effectiveness of his professed “languages” may not be 100% proven, Chapman got the importance of expressing love part 100% correct. Expressing love demands effort. Effort that, as John penned in 1 John 5:3 (quoted above), is not grievous, but a true joy. 🙂

To love God is to keep His commandments is to abide in Him is to is to love the brethren—it’s a symbiotic relationship—they all work together.

Chapman’s goal for his pupils is similar to our goal with our Father: learn, then practice (for a lifetime) the skills to successfully communicate the language of love, thereby achieving an optimal relationship with our Heavenly Father!


In keeping His commandments:

We show that we “believe on” His Son

We will know that we know Him 🙂

The love of God will be perfected in us.

We receive whatever we ask

We abide in Him

We show Him that we love Him!


❤ Why love the brethren?

To know that we passed from death to life.

Jesus laid down His life for us!

God so loved us!

God will abide in us.

His love will be perfected in us.

We love God!

God requires it!

Child-like Contentment!

Scanning through an old flash drive, I happened upon a few pictures of our youngest son, Micah. An immediate smile appeared simultaneously with tears as I recalled those priceless, yet fleeting days gone by. Looking intently at his content face then–and comparing it to the face I see today, I was able to account for some of the tears. What is it about growing up that seems to dissolve contentment within us; a dissolving that begins even in adolescence? As I pondered, I came up with three main reasons why—although I am confident you can come up with many more; they are:  1) Acknowledgment of and struggle with sin 2) Responsibilities 3) Disappointments.

Struggle with sin– While our struggle might be different, we all struggle. In our battle with sin, we must remember: a struggle exists because we are tempted and enticed to sin by our “own desires” (James 1:14). Two verses before that, it is written: “Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him” (1:12). Temptation is inevitable; but the prayer is to endure to be approved. Why? To be blessed and receive the crown of life! And who are those who have endured temptation, been approved by God, and have received the crown of life? Those who love Him! **The inevitable: temptation. Necessary action: endure. Result: approval. Promise: receive the crown of life. Who receives it: those who endure—who love God. ** In the struggle to endure temptation, do not forget 1 Corinthians 10:13: “No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make a way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.”

You are not alone in your struggle! God wants you to succeed; He wants you to receive the crown of life. The choice must be to love and trust Him each and every day!

Responsibilities– We can, and often do, become extremely overwhelmed by all our obligations. Responsibilities begin early and end when we leave this world, so instead of trying to eliminate them, we must learn how to juggle and perform them well. In Ecclesiastes 9:10 we read: “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might; for there is no work or device or knowledge or wisdom in the grave where you are going.” Also, in Colossians 3:17: “And whatever you do in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.” In Isaiah 40:6b-8, we, through beautiful poetic imagery, are refreshed with the truth about the brevity of life; reminding us that any responsibilities we have here on earth are fleeting—and therefore should not be allowed to consume us: “All flesh is grass, And all its loveliness is like the flower of the field, The grasswithers, the flowerfades, Because the breath of the LORD blows upon it; Surely the people are grass. The grasswithers, the flowerfades, But the word of our God stands forever.”

So, when we feel overwhelmed by our responsibilities, we should remember the truths from Isaiah 40:6-8 and perform our worldly responsibilities/obligations:

  1. With all our might (Ecc.9:10)
  2. Thankfully (Col. 3:17)
  3. In the name of the Lord Jesus (Col. 3:17)

Disappointments– As responsibilities, and our struggle with sin come early in life, so do disappointments. This is a rather difficult topic to discuss because of its complex, subjective nature, but it is good to be reminded of a few things on the topic: First, The Oxford Dictionary defines disappointment as, the feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one’s hopes or expectations. ‘Nonfulfillment’ means that we had expected something to be fulfilled—maybe even unrealistic expectations that we ourselves cannot fulfill, so let’s recall Romans 3:23: “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” “All” includes us. Let’s also recall Romans 5:6: “When we were still without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.” That too includes all of us! We should only expect of others what we can also expect of ourselves; never forgetting that we are all sinners whom Christ died for—and He alone is our hope! To avoid disappointment, let us always look unto Him, the “author and finisher of our faith . . .” (Hebrews 12:2). We also need to remember that Christ alone is “our hope” (1 Timothy 1:1). xo

Not that we would want to, but . . . We cannot relive our innocent childhood years; those years before the acknowledgement and struggle with sin began, or before responsibilities and disappointments crept in, but we can, with willing and active participation—and the help of Jesus Christ our savior, experience true child-like contentment once again! 🙂

The Balance of the Seasons

*This article was published in the Sept./Oct. 2017 Christian Woman Magazine. http://www.gospeladvocate.com

“This country loves to throw a party” eagerly shared my Chinese colleague, who spent one year teaching in the United States as part of a teacher exchange program. When I asked him to elaborate on his observation, he noted the national and local holidays we celebrate, personal family and work parties, and frequent ceremonies and celebrations within the schools. He was astounded by how bright and cheery the classrooms are, and what great lengths the teachers go through to make learning extra fun and exciting for the students. Now I know the American education mentality is lackadaisical compared to China’s—and I was a bit embarrassed by his observation—and exposure to our current system, but I mused more on his conclusion about the American’s frequent desire to celebrate everything—all the time. I began to really ponder the truthful, unbiased observation from my colleague and asked myself, Are we always celebrating? If so, why? Are we attempting to mask—or eliminate pain and sorrow? While there is nothing wrong with celebrating and being happy, maybe too much of a good time is not always so good.

The wisest man who ever lived—or ever will live (1Kings 3:12) said: “Sorrow is better than laughter, for by a sad countenance the heart is made better” (Ecclesiastes 7:3). How many people today would scour at that and turn it around to say that laughter is better than sorrow, for by a happy countenance the heart is made better. I mean it’s only natural that, ‘happy’ and ‘better’ go together. But not so said the wise man, for before that he said, “Better to go to the house of mourning Than to go to the house of feasting, For that is the end of all men; And the living will take it to heart” (Ecclesiastes 7:2). Consider: when we “feast,” we fill ourselves; but when we mourn, we empty ourselves. And, pride is full, yet empty; while humility is empty, yet overflowing. Such light, yet profoundly dense concepts can be fully understood only by the “Heart of the wise” (7:4), who, as Solomon says, are content to have taken up residence in the “house of mourning” (7:2,4). But where then are the others (he only lists two groups)? He concluded that the “Heart of the fools” (7:4) are occupying the “House of mirth” (mirth is translated ‘joy’).

Then, is it an error to be jolly? Absolutely not! The same wise man who said: “The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning” (7:4a), also said: “In the day of prosperity be joyful” (7:14). We know that our God desires good for us, but His good is for our eternal benefit and does not necessarily mean we will always be happy as we endure; in another contrast, our own definition of good would almost never include sorrow. We must remember that our Father has made both a “Time to weep” and “Time to laugh” (Ecclesiastes 3:4). Why? He tells us: “Surely God has appointed the one as well as the other, So that man can find out nothing that will come after him” (Ecclesiastes 7:14b). If life was good all the time, we would be weak and not know to guard ourselves; but if life was always bad (thankfully, our loving God would never do that to us), then we would lose all hope. So we see that there must be a balance—for our benefit. There is great contentment that comes from acknowledging a balance, but that contentment is not automatic. The apostle Paul said, “I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content: I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need” (Philippians 4:11-12). Twice in those two verses Paul said that he had learned to be content—whether he was full and abounding, or abased, suffering and hungry. He had acknowledged and accepted the balance—and was contented by it. We, like Paul, must learn, with Christ’s help (Philippians 4:13), to be content no matter what life situation we find ourselves in. After he learned to be peaceful, Paul went on to affirm Solomon’s wise words about the benefits of sorrow and sadness when he said, “I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong” (2 Corinthians 12:10). Pleasure in suffering? That’s an oxymoron! For whose sake? Oh, how this passage affirms Paul’s closeness and deep sacrificial love for Christ. The passage also offers great hope in the ability to know that in great weakness, there is profound strength.

Not only did my Chinese colleague observe our celebratory nature, but he often spoke to me about his struggles with student involvement. He said the students didn’t seem to care and didn’t like to be told what to do. I couldn’t help but think that those two observations could be universal—to all the world; and not confined only to this country. Universally, people don’t like to be told what to do; that’s tied in with our human (sin) nature. Just as sorrow carries a negative connotation, so rebuke does as well. In fact, I am content to say that rebuke carries even more of a negative connotation, for with sorrow, one assumes pity; but with rebuke, one assumes judgement. In a contrast to this common way of thinking, Solomon taught, “It is better to hear the rebuke of the wise Than for a man to hear the song of fools” (7:5). “Song” is an interesting word choice to use in contrast to rebuke; for it assumes volume. Solomon had something to say about that, too: “Words of the wise, spoken quietly, should be heard Rather than the shout of a ruler of fools” (Ecclesiastes 9:17). What can be quickly observed is: quiet rebuke flows from the wise while shouting and singing projects from the fools. Does that surprise us? Most likely it does not; we understand that things are heard better when there’s quiet in the periphery, but what if there’s noise all around? Can we still hear if we apply ourselves? Absolutely! Do you remember how God spoke to a desperate, discouraged and exhausted Elijah? The Lord was not in the terrible wind or tumultuous earthquake, nor was the Lord in a blazing fire; but it was in a “still small voice” (1 Kings 19:12) that Elijah heard the voice of the Almighty. There is no coincidence in God’s choice to be heard in a whisper, for it is only when we still our soul among the noise of the world—and humble ourselves, that we can truly hear the wisdom that our Father desires to share with us. Also recall Jesus, who understood the importance and benefit of quiet stillness. In Luke 5:16 we read that, “He often withdrew Himself into the wilderness and prayed.” Is not that a lesson for us all to learn and apply? Consider: loud people are not always worth listening to; they are just easier to hear. If we desire to be taught: by the wise of the world, and the wisdom found in God’s word, we must be active in our pursuit to hear, and humble enough to apply the message to our lives! None of us like to be told what to do, but if we desire to please our Father, learning to hear quiet rebuke: from the word of God and from the wise, is not an option.

Whether or not my colleagues observations are true, God’s word is true; and if we apply His teachings to our lives, we will understand more clearly that there must be a balance of the emotional times and seasons of our lives. True, “Sorrow is better than laughter” (Ecclesiastes 7:3) because only in sorrow is the heart made better—through vital healing and growth. Our hearts desperately need to be tended to and protected (Proverbs 4:23). But also true is that enjoyment should be commended because “Man has nothing better under the sun than to eat, drink, and be merry” (Ecclesiastes 8:15). So, enjoyment is important too because, as previously mentioned, without enjoyment, we would lose hope. Solomon was not contradicting himself, nor was he promoting nonchalant celebratory thinking; rather, he was illustrating the importance of each season and the benefits each season supplies. The world cannot understand the necessary balance, so they may always strive to remain in a continual state of “happiness,” thereby masking their sorrow; but Christians have the ability—and duty to learn to see—and appreciate the balance of the seasons of life; being joyful in times of prosperity, yet being attentive to the lessons the heart learns in times of sorrow. Christians must also learn to silence pride and “walk humbly with [our] God” (Micah 6:8), so we may have the ability—and desire to hear and apply the wisdom of the Wise among the noise of this celebratory and unruly world.

God’s Love for the Unloved!

Jacob, whom God renamed Israel: prince with God (Genesis 32:28; 35:10) had twelve sons, also known as “The twelve tribes of Israel” (Genesis 49:28). His twelve sons were born from four women: wives, Leah and her sister, Rachel; and their maids: Zilpah, Leah’s maid; and Bilhah, Rachel’s maid.

Other than their names and occupations, very little is known about Zilpah and Bilhah. From observation, they were simply slaves; under the complete control of their female masters. They were given to Jacob (30:4,9) for childbearing; not even given the ability to name their own sons: 30:6,8,11,13. None of their words are recorded, so they remain silent mysteries, yet vital Bible women because they gave birth to four of the twelve sons of Israel: Dan, Naphtali, Gad, and Asher.

More is known of Leah and Rachel. Their father, Laban, was a brother to Jacob’s mother, Rebekah, which means that the three: Jacob, Leah and Rachel were first cousins. The sisters were also co-wives of Jacob’s and honestly, rivals.

The sisters, unlike their maids, were not left completely silent; and much can be learned about who they were simply by observing the words and actions we have been given.


Leah, the “elder” (29:16) sister, was “unloved” (29:31) by Jacob. She had “delicate” (29:17) or weak eyes (which was considered a defect). She was given to Jacob in marriage by her father, through deceitful means, Gen. 29:25b. She gave birth to Jacob’s first four sons: Reuben, Simeon, Levi and Judah. She also gave birth to his ninth and tenth sons, Issachar and Zebulun. From the meaningful names she gave her sons—and the words she uttered at the giving of them, one has the ability to peer into the soul of the unloved woman.

  • She was afflicted, yet gave glory to God as the One who sees: Son #1: Reuben: (See, a son): “The LORD has surely looked upon my affliction. Now therefore, my husband will love me” (29:32).
  • She knew she was unloved, yet gave glory to God as the One who hears: Son #2: Simeon: (Heard): “Because the LORD has heard that I am unloved, He has therefore given me this son also” (29:33).
  • Yet through it all she remained hopeful: Son #3: Levi: (Attached):“Now this time my husband will become attached to me, because I have borne him three sons” (29:34).
  • She praised and gave glory to God: Son #4: Judah: (Praise): “Now I will praise the LORD” (29:35).
  • She was thankful and gave glory to God as the One who pays: Son #9: Issachar: (Wages): “God has given me my wages, because I have given my maid to my husband” (30:18).
  • She gave glory to God as the One who gives generously: Son #10: Zebulun: (Dwelling) “God has endowed me with a good endowment; now my husband will dwell with me, because I have borne him six sons” (30:20).

The following two sons were born to Jacob from Zilpah, Leah’s maid, after Leah had “Stopped bearing” (30:9) children. Leah named them.

  • (Ambiguous meaning), Jacob’s “Troop” (through her) was growing, so maybe she just acknowledged that?: Son #7: Gad (Troop or fortune): “A troop comes!” (30:11).
  • She was feeling blessed: Son #8: Asher (Happy): “I am happy, for the daughters will call me blessed” (30:13).

Apart from the names she gave to her sons, Leah’s words can only be observed twice more: Genesis 30:15-16; 31:14-16. In the first account, Leah responds to Rachel’s request for her son, Reuben’s, mandrakes: of the potato family (Smith’s Bible Dictionary, 378-9): “Is it a small matter that you have taken away my husband? Would you take away my son’s mandrakes also?” (30:15). In such a response, one can observe Leah’s threatened; and therefore confrontational tone. Later that day, in a rather bizarre (to the modern society) exchange, Leah met Jacob, who was coming in from a day in the fields, and said: “You must come in to me, for I have surely hired you with my son’s mandrakes” (30:16). If she had to “hire” him, then one can assume that she certainly did not spend a lot of intimate time with him. It is also easy to observe who controlled that time with Jacob:


Rachel, the younger sister, was “Beautiful of form and appearance” (29:17) and was greatly loved by Jacob. She was “Barren” (29:31). She was envious of her sister, who was able to bear children (Gen. 30:1). Her envy is what propelled her have two children through her maid, Bilhah. Her discontent is also what prompted her outburst to her husband: “Give me children, or else I die” (30:1).

Like Leah, Rachel can also be observed through her words and the names she gave to her and Bihah’s sons:

  • She had spoken to God and laid out her case; she knew that God had heard her: Son #5: Dan: (Judge): “God has judged my case; and He has also heard my voice and given me a son” (30:6)
  • She was clearly in a competition with her sister: Son #6: Naphtali: (My wrestling): “With great wrestlings I have wrestled with my sister, and indeed I have prevailed” (30:8).

After Dan and Naphtali were born, the Bible tells us, “God remembered Rachel, and God listened to her and opened her womb” (30:22). She then gave birth to her first son:

  • She acknowledged God’s healing, then “added” another son: Son #11: Joseph: (He will add): “God has taken away my reproach . . . The LORD shall add to me another son” (30:23;24)
  • Rachel sorrowed greatly as she gave birth to her and Jacob’s youngest son, for she “Died and was buried on the way” (35:19) to Ephrath (Bethlehem) immediately after his birth. This son is the only one who was renamed by his father. The first name was given by Rachel as she died; the second name was given to him and was the one he kept: Son #12: Ben-Oni: (Son of My Sorrow) / Benjamin: (Son of the Right Hand).

God’s word gives us more information into the heart of the loved woman. From her words and actions, it is easily observed that this woman may not have been as internally beautiful as she was externally. In the account mentioned above regarding her nephew, Judah’s mandrakes, Rachel comes across polite when asking for the vegetables: “Please give me some of your sons mandrakes” (Genesis 30:14b); but after being confronted about deep personal issues, responds with manipulation: “Therefore he will lie with you tonight for your sons mandrakes” (30:15b), thus revealing her control over their husband. Her tone when speaking to her husband (Genesis 30:1) also reveals the liberty she took with the man who loved her.

Recorded later, we observe Jacob’s large family leaving Laban, Leah and Rachel’s father, after working for him “twenty years” (Genesis 31:38). Upon leaving, the Bible records: “Rachel had stolen the household idols that were her father’s” (31:19). After Laban goes after the troop and confronts an unsuspecting and innocent Jacob, asking: Why did you steal my gods?” (31:30b), Jacob responds by saying: “With whomever you find your gods, do not let him live” (3132a). Laban searches through all the tents, but finds nothing, why? “Rachel had taken the household idols, put them in the camel’s saddle, and sat on them” (31:34a). Then, when her father came near to her, she lied to him saying, “Let it not displease my lord that I cannot rise before you, for the manner of women is with me” (31:35). While her actions reveal her character, her motive for stealing and lying to her father remains unclear.

Taken out of the Bible for observation are Rachel’s words: (You may place an adjective to describe the action–and possibly a character trait of Rachel–on the line):

  • “Give me children, or else I die” (30:1) “Rachel envied her sister” (30:1) ______________
  • “Here is my maid Bilhah; go in to her, and she will bear a child on my knees, that I also may have children by her” (30:3). ______________
  • “God has judged my case; and He has also heard my voice and given me a son” (30:6).  _______________
  • “With great wrestlings I have wrestled with my sister, and indeed I have prevailed” (30:8). ______________
  • “Please give me some of your sons mandrakes . . . Therefore he will lie with you tonight for your son’s mandrakes” (30:14b; 15b). _________________
  • “God has taken away my reproach . . . The LORD shall add to me another son” (30:23;24) _________________
  • “Let it not displease my lord that I cannot rise before you, for the manner of women is with me” (31:35). ____________________

The only time the sisters ever appeared to be unified is when they supported Jacob’s decision to leave their father’s land after two decades and return to “His father Isaac in the land of Canaan” (31:18b). Observe the verbal exchange in 31:1-16.

The end of the story for these two sisters is very important. I will not interject my opinion here; instead I will leave you to your own interpretation. Here are the facts:

  • Rachel “Died [immediately after giving birth to Benjamin] and was buried on the way” (35:19) to Ephrath (Bethlehem).
  • Jacob, giving instructions to his family regarding his eminent burial, stated: “Bury me with my fathers in the cave that it is the field of Ephron the Hittite,. . . There they buried Abraham and Sarah his wife, there they buried Isaac and Rebekah his wife, and there I buried Leah” (Genesis 49:29;31). Jacob did not give her a “wife” title—as he had for Sarah and Rebekah; but nonetheless, she is buried there, with him—and them!

No one really knows if Jacob ever grew to love Leah, but from observation—and our knowledge of Him, God took care of and loved the unloved; and I that is the lesson I have learned. Here are more facts:

  • God blessed both the women, but through Leah was born six of the twelve tribes of Israel; and from those: Reuben (his firstborn), Levi (priestly tribe), and (most notably to me) Judah (lineage of Jesus)!
  • Leah was blessed with a longer life than her sister.
  • Leah was honored by being buried with her husband in the same tomb as Abraham and Sarah, and Isaac and Rebekah!

Jacob looked at the “Outward appearance” (1 Samuel 16:7)—as man often does, but God’s word reveals to us the hearts of these individuals. From what we observe about them, Leah’s inward beauty appeared to outlast that of the outward beauty of her little sister. Just as God taught through the example of the anointing of the shepherd boy, David, so I believe He teaches us through the example of the rival sisters, wives of Jacob, and mothers of the Israelite nation!


  • “Elder” daughter (29:16)
  • “Delicate” eyes (29:17)
  • “When the LORD saw that Leah was unloved, He opened her womb” (29:31).
  • “God listened to Leah” (30:17).
  • Buried in a tomb with Abraham & Sarah; Isaac & Rebekah; and Jacob!


  • “Younger” daughter (29:16)
  • “Beautiful of form and appearance” (29:17).
  • “Barren” (29:31b).
  • “Envied her sister” (30:1).
  • “God remembered Rachel, and God listened to her and opened her womb” (30:22).
  • “Died and was buried on the way” (35:19) to Ephrath (Bethlehem).



(L) Reuben: (See, a son)

(L) Simeon: (Heard)

(L) Levi: (Attached)

(L) Judah: (Praise)

(B) Dan: (Judge)

(B) Naphtali: (My wrestling)

(Z) Gad: (Troop or fortune)

(Z) Asher: (Happy)

(L) Issachar: (Wages)

(L) Zebulun: (Dwelling)

(R) Joseph: (He will add)

(R) Ben-Oni: (Son of My Sorrow) / Benjamin: (Son of the Right Hand)

*(L) Leah, (B) Bilhah, (Z) Zilpah, (R) Rachel